Ways to Manage the Inevitability of Divorce


“The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

When a couple gets married, they both believe that their marriage will last forever. However, as emphasised by the quotation mentioned above by Elizabeth Gilbert, sometimes relationships end up in divorce.

2014 statistics for the United States of America show that the crude marriage rate is 6.9 per 1000 people, the crude divorce rate is 3.2 per 1000 people. Therefore, in 2014, just under 50% of all marriages ended in divorce.

Reasons for divorce

Some of the reasons for divorce include infidelity by one or both partners, one partner is a victim or perpetrator of a crime, and one or both partners are abusive toward the other partner and the children if there are any as a result of the union.

However, on the other hand, the reason for divorce can be nothing more than two people who can no longer live in the same space, and they decide that to separate is the best option going forward.

Managing the inevitability of divorce

Larry Alton in his inc.com article titled “The 7 Most Stressful Life Changes (and how to cope with them)” notes that divorce ranks among the top three most stressful life events. In fact, it lies second behind the death of a loved one. Therefore, here are several tips to help you navigate your way through a divorce.

Employ a divorce attorney

People often think that it is a simple matter to navigate the divorce courts without hiring a specialist Tacoma divorce attorney. Even though the divorce is not acrimonious, there are still intricacies of the divorce law that need to be attended to before the courts will grant the divorce. And, contrary to popular opinion, asking a legal expert to manage your divorce will more than likely end up saving time and money.

Negotiations, not revenge-taking

Even if the divorce is a contested divorce and the reasons for the divorce are as a consequence of one of the partner’s actions, it is still not a good idea for the injured party to take revenge on each other partner.

No matter how you might be feeling, the shortest route to the end of the divorce process is to ask your attorney to mediate and to negotiate a divorce settlement that works for both parties. No matter how hurt and offended both partners are feeling, the divorce court will not grant the divorce order until the agreement between the two parties has been fairly negotiated.

Change your will and other important documents

Part of the separation of the union is to make sure that your legal Will and Testament is changed to reflect your new status. The same rule applies to all other legal documents, especially insurance beneficiaries.