Tips to Make Your Divorce as Painless as Possible


“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.” – Jennifer Weiner

2016 statistics for the USA show that between 2000 and 2016 almost 50% of all marriages ended in divorce. These figures can be broken down as follows:

  • In 2016, there were circa 2.25 million marriages.
  • The total population in 2016 was 3.23 million people which is a ratio of marriages per 1000 people of 6.9.
  • Similarly, in 2016, the ratio of divorces per 1000 people is 3.2.
  • Thus, based on these statistics, circa one half of all marriages ended in divorce.

Therefore, it is reasonable to assume that divorce is, unfortunately, a fact of life for 50% of married couples. Thus, the question that begs is not whether divorces should be condoned or not. It is how to make divorce as pain-free as possible.

Unfortunately, the divorce process for many couples ends up being prolonged and acrimonious with both parties insisting on what’s best for themselves and not what is necessarily realistic.

Therefore, should you find yourself in a situation where divorce is staring you in the face, here are several tips to help you get through this painful process as simple and pain-free as possible:

Hire a legal expert

A Galveston divorce attorney is a highly-skilled, knowledgeable legal expert who is well-versed in divorce law and family law. By hiring a professional who not only understands what is required, but is also level-headed, able to advise you, and mediate between you and your spouse.

Be prepared to be flexible

Even though you might be justified in believing that you are the innocent party who has been hurt and wronged by your partner’s actions, it is far better to negotiate a reasonable settlement between the two of you, especially if there are children involved. If you insist on sticking to your demands because your partner deserves to be punished for his/her actions, you run the risk of a contested divorce.

This scenario will more than likely result in a trial with a judge determining what is fair and what is not fair. Not only will this unnecessarily prolong the divorce process, but it will also cost a lot of money as you will have to pay an attorney to take your matter to trial.

Reduce the emotional trauma linked to divorce

Divorce is ranked as one of the most stressful and traumatic life events for everyone involved. The harsh reality is that a contested, drawn-out divorce will prolong the trauma and can ultimately result in Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome for everyone involved, especially if there are children born during the marriage.

Therefore, when considering whether to, or not to, negotiate a reasonable settlement or take the matter to trial, it is essential to consider the negative emotional consequences to yourself, your partner, and your children should you decide not to negotiate a mediated settlement.